How I Meal Plan and Cook Real Dinners (While Working and Momming), Part One

How I Meal Plan and Cook Real Dinners (While Working and Momming), Part One

For many of us, cooking feels like a chore and the idea that we could prioritize it in the name of self-care is beyond strange. I always liked cooking, but through college and grad school it was really a means to an end - the end being entertaining friends over a meal, which I loved doing. A turning point came in 2013/2014, when I was unemployed for nine months. Jon and I were long distance at the time and I lived alone in a studio apartment. My parents were nearby and I had Charlie, but I was lonely, directionless, and deeply depressed. I took refuge in food blogs, meal planning, and cooking elaborate dishes for myself.

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Primary Bedroom
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Primary Bedroom

As we get closer to our whole house renovation - which will be happening this calendar year, thank God - I’m allowing myself to start designing the new iterations of rooms. Mostly I’m doing it for fun, but there is a practical element to it, too: if we know what furniture we want to use post-renovation, we can sell or donate the rest when we move out and won’t have to pay to store it.

My friend Heather wrote a post a few months ago about the pressures of decorating a “grown-up” home, and I know exactly what she means because we’ve been telling ourselves since we moved into our house that it wouldn’t be our grown-up home until after the renovation. Buying the house was the investment to start; everything else could be put off.

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Sweet Potato and Kale Kugel
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Sweet Potato and Kale Kugel

This is pretty far down the list of Things That Make Me a Bad Jew, but it’s on there somewhere: I don’t really like kugel.

Sweet kugel, that is. Made with either sour cream, cream cheese, cottage cheese, or ricotta - usually a combination of at least two of them - and raisins, it’s a quintessential Ashkenazi baked noodle dish studded with raisins and seasoned with sugar and cinnamon. (Here’s a classic recipe and here’s another topped with Frosted Flakes.)

Savory kugel, though? Sign me up!

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Consider the Opening: A Poem for 2024
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Consider the Opening: A Poem for 2024

In November 2022, Kathleen Donahoe published an untitled poem on Instagram that regularly pops up in my mind to serve as - depending on the circumstance - a reminder, an admonition, or a promise. The two lines in the middle of the poem, in particular, have captured me:

Then you, and by you I mean me,
Might consider the opening

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Normal v. Common: Women’s Pain
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Normal v. Common: Women’s Pain

Get any group of women together and the conversation will, at some point, turn to shared pain. How much did it hurt when you had your IUD inserted? Have you physically recovered from childbirth? What works for your menstrual cramps? And, most frequent of all: is what I’m feeling normal?

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